8 Things About Life Every Spiritual Person Should Learn Before Determining Their Purpose
Thinking about your life’s purpose is daunting.
It requires you to contemplate the deepest aspects of your experience and reflect on what you find most meaningful.
This process of self-examination, when done correctly, demands that you take accountability and responsibility for the way your life has turned out.
Unfortunately, that’s not always pleasant.
In searching for a North Star — something to focus on and strive towards, you may have to confront the ways in which your lack of authenticity has resulted in disappointment and failing to stay true to your values.
While engaging in this process myself, I discovered several important takeaways.
Following a morning hike among the serenity of red rocks, wildflowers, and mountain views, I sat in conversation with an old friend.
We had an important topic to discuss — my future career.
My friend knows that I’m a therapist who has spent the last seven years in graduate school earning a doctorate in clinical psychology.
He knows that I spent the majority of my last two years writing my dissertation. And he knows that I have ambition — that, thanks to the shackles of graduate school, has yet to be unleashed in a professional setting.
But as we sat eating a hard-earned meal, he had one simple question for me: What’s next?
As I sat contemplating my answer — not wanting to utter empty words — I decided to speak my truth.
I shared that my passion involves helping others learn more about themselves and doing so in a deep and impactful manner that, if they’re bought in, can completely change their lives.
I value engaging in that transformative work because that’s what I’ve experienced in my life: A deep, inner transformation that has led to more fulfillment and a better understanding of who I am regardless of what’s happening around me.
I also love sharing and hearing truth. I think that you know truth when you feel it in your bones. And there I feel connected to the sacred and profound human experience when I hear and share truth with others.
All I need in life is to live close to that truth.
Honoring each person’s truth is my oxygen. It’s what makes me feel most enlivened and whole.
In seeing that, I discovered that money is not my driver. That admiration, validation, and respect are things that I want, but those aren’t my most significant motivators either.
One thing that will make me happy is to share my voice with the world.
To speak my truth no matter how difficult or uncomfortable. And to live in congruence and authenticity with my highest self.
That challenge — of helping others discover and share their truth while engaging in that same process myself — is worthy of this lifetime.
It is time well spent.
And while I hope it results in lucrative compensation and validation from others (to compensate for ego wounds that I will continue addressing), engaging in this work is more important than receiving the latter at the expense of the former.
My hope is that you can be intentional about finding your calling.
That you can be courageous in confronting the areas of your life you may not have measured up. And that you can build a meaningful life starting with an alignment with your deepest truths.
Read the list below, which contains eight life lessons most people learn too late in life.
They are at the core of my personal philosophy, which I hope inspires you to discover your own values and then do the hard part — practice what you preach.
1. Everything is connected. Yes, everything.
Mind, body, and spirit are all related.
At the deepest and most fundamental level, we are all modifications of Consciousness Itself.
As such, we must view challenges from a holistic perspective. And we must understand that because everything arises from a Prior Unity, we have the responsibility to treat everyone and everything with love, kindness, and respect.
2. Authenticity creates presence, confidence, and influence.
The most influential leaders are the ones that behave in ways aligned with their values. When you listen to your intuition, trust your instincts, and practice what you preach, it creates authenticity.
And that authenticity is palpable.
When people feel your genuineness and sincerity, your presence creates a powerful energy that resonates with others. Like a tuning fork, others begin to follow and align themselves with your vibration.
3. Trust is fundamental to your relationship with yourself and others.
If you can’t trust yourself, then you can’t grow. And if you can’t trust others, then you’ll never discover your true potential.
Our suffering can be eased by opening ourselves up to the wound of love — to love ourselves and others with such intensity that we forget the possibility of being hurt.
From that position of trust, the universe opens and allows us to move beyond our suffering.
4. Love, not time, heals all wounds.
People who think that time heals all wounds have no idea what they’re talking about. That’s part of speaking my truth, I have to call it like I see it.
Experience is what changes your perspective.
Love is what opens you up to deeper and more meaningful experiences. And love is what allows you to forgive others and yourself.
5. Balance creates harmony and deepens fulfillment.
While everyone’s balance may look different, the truth is that being out of balance creates toxicity. And that toxicity will be expressed on a mental, emotional, physical, or spiritual level.
Working towards a balanced life in all aspects is often the more difficult road, but always the one that ends in the greatest fulfillment.
6. Freedom requires responsibility for your actions.
In this paradoxical world, the more of an individual you become, the more responsible you are for your relationships with others.
The mature adult, of which there are few, doesn’t hide from this responsibility, but instead embraces this reality and treats others with kindness.
7. Seeking happiness prevents its attainment.
You are seeking that which you are actively divorcing yourself from.
We often misplace our essence — love-bliss happiness — onto external objects and then seek those characteristics as if they are separate from ourselves.
8. Quick fixes don’t provide lasting results.
When I was a kid, I thought nice basketball shoes made you jump higher. They don’t.
As an adolescent, I thought that a nice long board made you a better skater. It doesn’t. This pattern continues infinitely if you let it.
The truth is that quick fixes don’t work — they mask a problem and create 10 more.
Don’t get caught living a life of quick fixes, unhappiness, and consumerism.
Move beyond those superficial tendencies and towards something deeper.
Take a seat and reflect on the meaning and purpose of your life. Because if you haven’t reflected on your values, then you’re living according to someone else’s.
Don’t do that!
Take a stand. Stand for something. And use your personal philosophy to guide you towards a meaningful and fulfilling life.